Wednesday, February 3, 2010

Thoughts and prayers desperately needed.

I'm really starting to worry about our future financial situation. Maternity leave is only 2 1/2 months out now, and we still don't have any secure income after that time. Mike has an interview this morning, which we are very excited about. It would be the perfect job for him and a great opportunity. However, even at best, he would be making less than half of what his previous salary was.

It's looking like I'm going to have to work no matter what after Baby comes. I'd like to find something part time, preferably something I can do from home. I only need to make about $1000 (possibly $1500) a month, so it seems doable, but I know how impossible it is to find work from home. If I end up getting a part time job outside the home, that brings in the factor of daycare. Paying for daycare would basically negate any income that I brought in from a part time job. Which then leads to the idea that I'll have to work full time. But even if I were to stay at my current job, after paying for daycare, I would still only bring home $700 a month. That's just not enough for us to afford our bills, not to mention food and gas.

I am so scared right now. I want to trust that things are going to work out, but time is starting to get short, and there is still no hope on the horizon. The idea of getting a second vehicle is out the window, as well as the plan to replace our windows in our house. Right now I don't even know how we can afford to live and pay our mortgage.

Please pray for us, and let me know if you hear of any part time work opportunities.

I'm scared.

17 comments:

mrsdanigirl8 said...

Huge hugs! While I can't contribute/help financially I have TONS of baby stuff for you to borrow :)

Natalie | The Bobby Pin said...

Hugs. Major hugs.

I'll pray for you, I have faith that something will come along! I also called and put your name on the prayer roll at the temple. So they will pray for you too :) I hope that's OK (it is private). Sometimes it is comforting to know that people are thinking of you.

zebe912 said...

I feel your pain. This is one of the biggest reasons we haven't TTC after our surprise & miscarriage a year ago. I bring in the majority of our income, and SAHM is non-negotiable for me. It is the career goal I've always had, not my music therapy. Neither of us make all that much now, but I still carry the weight so it all depends on B finishing school & then getting a job that makes the equivalent of both of us now. It causes me major stress all the freaking time. I try not to think about it. You have it staring you right in the face (or belly) though. I'll be thinking of you for sure. It is scary & frustrating, especially if you have a specific vision in your head of the kind of mom you want to be.

Jessy said...

Hey, found your blog through Tiffs and just realized we are almost due date buddies!
Hope everything work out for you and your hubby!!! I'll make sure I keep you in my prayers.

Alanna said...

Thanks, girls - I really appreciate all your kind comments!

Leah said...

Hi there! It's Leah (Ilana) from the Babycenter! I love your blog and follow it all the time! It is awesome! I love how excited you are and your belly bump is adorable. I am 20 weeks now and just found out it's a boy--yay!

I just wanted to say that right after our daughter was born, my hubby lost his job and I have never been more scared. It is scary and there is a reason to worry BUT making yourself sick is not healthy for you or sweet baby girl. You never know...the perfect job could open up for Mike before the baby even arrives. I do, however, understand the stress and fear. Please stick together...that stress is tough on a marriage. One day at a time; remember to smile and stay in the moment...as much as possible.

A thought for you to consider--that I have thought about too. If you only need $1,000 or so, what about watching a child (or two) in your home? Could that be an option? Lots of moms out there like us that just need to know their child is safe! I will be thinking of you!! Leah xo

Leah said...

Me again...check out this site---www.care.com You can advertise or look for childcare on there. I am in FL so I am not sure if it will cover the West but check it out!

Tessa said...

I'm so sorry you're having to go through this during your pregnancy Alanna! You never know what's going to happen and Mike could very well land his dream job between now and when your baby girl is born. As hard as is it, try to keep your chin up and think positive thoughts. Put out there exactly what you want to come back to you and hopefully it will happen!!!

And remember that your friends are here for you if you need a shoulder to lean on, an ear to listen or any baby stuff to borrow ;)

Love you!!!

Kat Graz said...

Hey Mamma!!!

I am sorry you are so stressed! Obviously with all the changes that have gone in you life recently it can all get a little overwhelming. Trust me though- you will make it work. It may not be glamorous at first but you will get it done. Mike may have to get 2 jobs at first until he finds a great one. Or you could even work odd hours (nights- weekends)somewhere to meet the bills. That way Mike could watch the baby when you are at work. I know it doesn;t sound like fun but once you mmet baby vanilla bean you will sacrifice everything to give her what she needs. Remember the situation is only temporary! Plus I will ship baby stuff to you if you need. Avery is growing out of everything so fast!

Hugs :)

Alanna said...

Thanks, girls - I don't know what I'd do without my friends!!!
Thanks for the suggestion, Leah - I was just thinking about possibly doing childcare last night - it's definitely something to look into!

I really truly appreciate all your thoughts and prayers!!!

Johanna said...

I'm so sorry you've got this burden right now. I know it's hard to believe, but you will make it through this. I hope and pray a good opportunity comes along soon, so you can spend your time preparing for your baby, and not worrying about finanes.

Melissa said...

daycare is a really good idea, it was something i was contemplating as well. I wish we lived a little closer, then I would just pay you to watch P. I have faith that it will all work out for you.

Future Mama said...

Praying for you girlie! I know how you are feeling, we have the same worries! I'm going to pray my heart out for you!! Good luck hun!

YUMMama said...

I will certainly keep you guys in prayer. I do have a few suggestions that might help.

Have you guys tried looking on Craigslist for job opportunities for your husband? There are some legitimate posts on there. Also, have you thought about selling Avon? You can be eRepresentative and get all your blog friends to buy stuff as well as your family and friends. Plus, they have an application that will allow you to put your storefront on your Facebook page.

And you can create a wish list with Google and post it to your blog. Not to mention, if you haven't had your baby shower yet be sure to register for lots of diapers, wipes, clothes or just ask for gift cards. But don't stress. Have faith because God always provides for those in need.

CB said...

I know you. And Mike. You will both do whatever you can to make it work for your little girl. Times are tough for everyone right now and you might have to make sacrifices for her but I know you'll do it willingly b/c that's what good parents do. {{T+L+H}}

Kacie said...

I am not sure this will help, and I am sure you have considered it, but maybe you would have luck finding a sitter who babysits in her own home? Often, you can find something for much less expensive than a daycare center and often they will get a lot more one on one attention than at the big centers anyway. I found someone to watch Gemma for 150$ every 2 weeks!

To be honest with you, I am a single mom and I have moved back home and I just started a job (I have only worked one day!) and my daughter is 5 months old! I have been through some financially challenging times but I have been able to work and I know you will be able to do the same.

Your love for your child will give you the strength to make it work, no matter how everything plays out.

I hope that helps :) I am off to explore the rest of your blog now!

-Kacie

Kacie said...

Sorry, I just meant to say that I have been able to MAKE it work not work...